What's your perfect partner?

[EndersShadow]

I really suck at using the search function (I can only use it well for certain things). So if there's a thread out there (and there probably is since this isn't a unique topic) then please guide me to it.

You can describe physical attributes and/or the girl's personality. The reason I ask is because everyone has his/her own personal taste. For example, contradicting what a lot of girls think, many guys (possibly may be 50/50 here) like girls with meat on her... as in not obese but certainly not with an anorexic model's figure.

My ideal girl would have...
-dirty blonde or brown hair coming a few inches below her shoulders. Her hair would be straight, soft, and fine (but not thin).
-blue eyes if she has dirty blonde hair and green if she's a brunette.
-an atheltic build with a 5'6, 115 lb frame.
-a medium to slightly below medium breast size.
-an ass... nothing huge but something's gotta be there.
-a cute, "girl next door" face and style/fashion sense.

-to be a Redskins' fan. No brainer...
-to be "clean" - as in no drugs nor alcohol.
-a fun personality (enjoys life and doesn't mope around).
-a certain shyness about her cuz I do get jealous pretty easily but I'd like her to interact well with my friends and family.
-a weird sense of humor since I'm known to not be funny (even though I try a lot!!!).
-a little ditz in her but actually be quite intelligent.
-that cute southern charm.
-an urge to put me before herself (cuz I'd put her before myself).

[Axe&Hammer]

-Must be an Autobot
-10'-3''
-3.4 tons
-15 cm rhm with spent uranium armor covering
-good with weapons
-Night vision enabled
-Good driver
-Pilot
-can cook
-heat resistant up to 3,000 degrees
-eletro-optical camo add-on ready
-wi-fi enabled
-can haul several tons
-good torque ratio

[WonsAuto]

-Must be an Autobot
-10'-3''
-3.4 tons
-15 cm rhm with spent uranium armor covering
-good with weapons
-Night vision enabled
-Good driver
-Pilot
-can cook
-heat resistant up to 3,000 degrees
-eletro-optical camo add-on ready
-wi-fi enabled
-can haul several tons
-good torque ratio

:lol:

That's all I can say to that.

[Phaded]

-Must be an Autobot
-10'-3''
-3.4 tons
-15 cm rhm with spent uranium armor covering
-good with weapons
-Night vision enabled
-Good driver
-Pilot
-can cook
-heat resistant up to 3,000 degrees
-eletro-optical camo add-on ready
-wi-fi enabled
-can haul several tons
-good torque ratio

Hahahahahaha thats a quality post mate had me in stitches.

[Fangrim]

I'd settle for anyone who can stand me for more then 10 minutes at a time...

[Uncool]

I never truly had a preference for women but I already met her. She passed away years ago but if I ever did search for another life partner, I would hope it would be close to her.

[EndersShadow]

I'm suprised? Nobody has this perfect girl/guy in his or her head? I mean, I realize there's almost no chance to find that perfect person but to not even have an idea of what you want? Suprised I am...

I'm sorry to hear that Uncool. I hope you haven't given up on meeting another girl though because that would be your only deterrence from finding someone.

btw, am I blind or something? Isn't there supposed to be a spell check button?

[ex nihilo7]

My ideal girl would be:
-Beautiful
-Believes the same as I do
-Loving
-Good wife
-Faithful
-Good Mother
-Shorter than me
-Loves me for who I am and not for what I make

[13th_Shell]

-Must be an Autobot
-10'-3''
-3.4 tons
-15 cm rhm with spent uranium armor covering
-good with weapons
-Night vision enabled
-Good driver
-Pilot
-can cook
-heat resistant up to 3,000 degrees
-eletro-optical camo add-on ready
-wi-fi enabled
-can haul several tons
-good torque ratio

No one's going to get better than that!

/thread

[I write Cursive]

LOL an Ideal guy? Glorious. I dont know, theres just too much to make an ideal guy. But, looks is a must and being able to make that cash monnaayy. uh, someone that my family can approve of because we are a pretty traditional chinese family with extremely high standards which is reasonable. And if they didnt approve, I can guarantee that I wont be able to marry him even if I loved him.

[MrFenwick]

Perfect? Good luck trying to find that. You'll die before finding that.

But I'm not sure if I could give in great detail what my "perfect" girl would be. Its really hard to say. I just know that when I meet her I will know. Its just the feeling you get. Its when you can say that your not scared to grow old with her/him.

[Uncool]

Perfect? Good luck trying to find that. You'll die before finding that.

But I'm not sure if I could give in great detail what my "perfect" girl would be. Its really hard to say. I just know that when I meet her I will know. Its just the feeling you get. Its when you can say that your not scared to grow old with her/him.


As much as you can detail the girl of your dreams, the one you may end up with may not even fit have of the stigmata you may have. If he/she makes you whole, someone that you cherish more than anything and makes you feel like your life has fulfillment (as many people do not in their lives) then perhaps that is the person you are ment to be with.



I'm sorry to hear that Uncool. I hope you haven't given up on meeting another girl though because that would be your only deterrence from finding someone.

btw, am I blind or something? Isn't there supposed to be a spell check button?
Yeah I have said this story to people countless times: gf and parents killed by drunk driver and I knew only before moving to my new house with my family. It made me angry at my powerlessness and how for all things that she did to make me the person I became when I was with her, I ended up reverting to the person I hated the most again.

Oh and the spellchecker, we probably lost that when we switched from php->vb so go figure...>_>....

[EndersShadow]

LOL an Ideal guy? Glorious. I dont know, theres just too much to make an ideal guy. But, looks is a must and being able to make that cash monnaayy. uh, someone that my family can approve of because we are a pretty traditional chinese family with extremely high standards which is reasonable. And if they didnt approve, I can guarantee that I wont be able to marry him even if I loved him.

I guess I'm lucky? My dad's tried raising my siblings and me up into the typical chinese one. However, my two older siblings are very rebellious which stressed my dadio to the breaking limit... and so he broke. Now he's very mellow and chill with nothing but best wishes in any endevour we encounter.


Perfect? Good luck trying to find that. You'll die before finding that.

But I'm not sure if I could give in great detail what my "perfect" girl would be. Its really hard to say. I just know that when I meet her I will know. Its just the feeling you get. Its when you can say that your not scared to grow old with her/him.


I believe you're missing the point I was trying to make. (I even stated it's almost impossible to find that "perfect" person. I'm well aware of that and even if you did find her, who's to say you're her/his perfect person?)

I was just interested in seeing what people want in their significant other because everyone's unique and along with that comes his/her own personal preference. It's interesting to see those preferences in my opinion... (which reminds me, I'm not going to comment on others' ideal person to prevent judging or bashing)

By the way, when you said that, "when I meet her I will know [she's the one]" did you mean that as a "love at first sight" kinda thing?

As much as you can detail the girl of your dreams, the one you may end up with may not even fit have of the stigmata you may have. If he/she makes you whole, someone that you cherish more than anything and makes you feel like your life has fulfillment (as many people do not in their lives) then perhaps that is the person you are ment to be with.
You know, I'd say that's the feeling you get when you have the "right" girl. The one that's as good as it gets because nobody's truly perfect but you can come darn close. But even still, there ought to be qualities in the girl that you can list that makes her "right". Sure the list won't be the same for every girl but people have fantasies... ... perhaps I should change the title to "what's you fantasy partner?"

Also, to make sure we're on the same page... my intent wasn't to pry your story out (though it sounds familiar... I may have read it some time before I joined the forum). I try to stay clear of topics people are uncomfortable discussing (though that doesn't seem to be the case with you... which is good I guess).

Oh, and thanks for the fyi on the spellcheck thing.

[The_One]

Actually, funny thing. I was just talking to... my high school teacher at a Sushi bar reunion. Yeah, not the average guy you'd talk to about love :lol:

He just recently got married, and he told me an interesting story... Which I'm too lazy to type out at the time.

Needless to say, he said that you don't "look" for that perfect woman/man. You find each other, and you will know it (hugging his current-wife back then was "physically" electrifying in the literal sense, my teacher said) when you meet that person.

Anywho... So, I guess I don't have a preference (that's a lie. I do :)). Whoever gives me this "electrifying" hug, I'll take :lol:!

Besides, Penguins aren't picky like that ;).

[soldier one]

I have certain thing i look for and i already found the girl that has them all sadly she isnt mine just yet. :)

[Bitbydeath]

Well i knew it, i had it, then i thought i had it and thought i knew it and now i just don't know anything anymore

[Goodfella]

I actually met my perfect partner in 2004, she was a female me, only beautiful in every way shape and form. She ended up walking out of my life with a loser drug addict boyfriend that I was trying to push out of the picture because I knew things would end up bad for her if she stayed with him.:cry:

I can honestly say I will never find another close to what she was...

You guys suck you made me sad.....:( Why did I come in this thread.

[Uncool]

You know, I'd say that's the feeling you get when you have the "right" girl. The one that's as good as it gets because nobody's truly perfect but you can come darn close. But even still, there ought to be qualities in the girl that you can list that makes her "right". Sure the list won't be the same for every girl but people have fantasies... ... perhaps I should change the title to "what's you fantasy partner?"

Also, to make sure we're on the same page... my intent wasn't to pry your story out (though it sounds familiar... I may have read it some time before I joined the forum). I try to stay clear of topics people are uncomfortable discussing (though that doesn't seem to be the case with you... which is good I guess).

Oh, and thanks for the fyi on the spellcheck thing.
In any case your right for that was for the '"right" girl but not your "perfect" girl (I cannot really make up qualifications but I just used her as an example in a sense). Don't worry about prying me open, I told this on the relationship thread with PBM last year, leading me to believe we had more in common then I thought. If someone ask's me this sort of thing I usually refer to this story because its about one of the very few I have.

Well fantasy's...>_>..usually become a bit outlandish by some. But to stay on topic:
- intelligent
- humourous
- into similiar hobbies (anime, manga, games, music, randomonia, etc...)
- eye's I can look at and never truly want to look away
- accent (so I can counter with bad engrish)
- amazon body (but I will have to be up to par too hehe..)
- charismatic (this one is a keeper among all the others, keeps the connection close to one another)
- willingness to open up (its hard for some people)
- compensate by making each others weakness a strengths (a tradeoff if you will).
- smile (this usually melts all guys/girls in their place)
- one who doesn't die/leave me (but who truly knows when their time is up?)
- go on long walks leading to no where but staying together..>_>...hmm mines getting to sappy.

[EndersShadow]

Some are saying that they've known (or currently know) that perfect someone... that's good and great but what makes that person "perfect" if you don't mind me asking (which is the essence of the thread). If the words are difficult to come by, that's fine but it can't hurt to try can it? There's always an edit button anyway :)


Actually, funny thing. I was just talking to... my high school teacher at a Sushi bar reunion. Yeah, not the average guy you'd talk to about love :lol:

He just recently got married, and he told me an interesting story... Which I'm too lazy to type out at the time.

Needless to say, he said that you don't "look" for that perfect woman/man. You find each other, and you will know it (hugging his current-wife back then was "physically" electrifying in the literal sense, my teacher said) when you meet that person.

Anywho... So, I guess I don't have a preference (that's a lie. I do :)). Whoever gives me this "electrifying" hug, I'll take :lol:!

Besides, Penguins aren't picky like that ;).

Yeah, I'm not recommending people to go out and compare potential dates to their fantasy person. Though, in my opinion, if you find a girl that's right for you then she MUST have qualities you want/wanted. Whether you thought of them or not, they existed otherwise there'd be no attraction. But that's my opinion...

edit: lol, geez... quite a bit of people are getting bummed out from this thread. Relax, this isn't meant to mourn over losses. If a girl decided not to be with you then she's not your perfect girl, now is she? (unless your perfect girl is one that doesn't want to be with you...)

[Behemoko]

Looks aren't everything, the right girl will show you that, I met who I wished I could have married (met her 4 years ago, started wanting to marry about 3 years ago) and she moved away over the summer of 05', and she wasn't really that high in the good looks department, in fact, she was probably sub-average, but had a personality that still makes me mad that I NEVER EVEN ASKED HER OUT and now I don't even know what state she lives in.. If Uncool gets to put a sad story, so do I.. :cry: The reason I never asked her out is that I am king of all shy people, hear me MEOW!, errmm.. ROAR!

[Goodfella]

edit: lol, geez... quite a bit of people are getting bummed out from this thread. Relax, this isn't meant to mourn over losses. If a girl decided not to be with you then she's not your perfect girl, now is she? (unless your perfect girl is one that doesn't want to be with you...) If only you knew the half of it. Then you'd understand.

[EndersShadow]

Nevermind... make this thread into whatever you want. Lol... if you want to mourn then mourn...

If you stayed on track of the thread you'd be sharing. If you're mourning then you're sharing. In a sense, I got what I wanted...

[Uncool]

Looks aren't everything, the right girl will show you that, I met who I wished I could have married (met her 4 years ago, started wanting to marry about 3 years ago) and she moved away over the summer of 05', and she wasn't really that high in the good looks department, in fact, she was probably sub-average, but had a personality that still makes me mad that I NEVER EVEN ASKED HER OUT and now I don't even know what state she lives in.. If Uncool gets to put a sad story, so do I.. :cry: The reason I never asked her out is that I am king of all shy people, hear me MEOW!, errmm.. ROAR!

Hmm I was very much the same as you until I met mine....>_>..for a good while she was my entire world and nothing mattered. Very first time I could open up to a person and not be afraid of rejection or guilt trips. But the problem with me is that for all the people I meet they usually die or leave me, hence I avoid contact with many people due to it (and relationships for that matter). :| Its kind of strange with all my humouristic banter and all my randomness she was the only one who saw past that and knew who I was underneath it all. Sorry Ender's I made this thread a bit moopy...>_>..

[EndersShadow]

If only you knew the half of it. Then you'd understand.

Based on my new acceptance of how this thread turned out, I'm all ears if you want to divulge even half of it.

[Goodfella]

Based on my new acceptance of how this thread turned out, I'm all ears if you want to divulge even half of it.If I were to give you half the story, the post would start another 2 pages. :lol:

Doesn't matter though I offered her a way out and she thought about it but in the end I'm not with her...

[EndersShadow]

If I were to give you half the story, the post would start another 2 pages. :lol:

Doesn't matter though I offered her a way out and she thought about it but in the end I'm not with her...

Actually, I get the feeling this turned into a similar thread to the relationship help one. However, that's for present relationships while this one seems like it's already too late (ones that have already failed).

It's whatever though... like I said, if she willingly walked out of your life then she wasn't so perfect after all. Since she wasn't the right girl then she helped you by making you available to try again at the game of love.


Hmm I was very much the same as you until I met mine....>_>..for a good while she was my entire world and nothing mattered. Very first time I could open up to a person and not be afraid of rejection or guilt trips. But the problem with me is that for all the people I meet they usually die or leave me, hence I avoid contact with many people due to it (and relationships for that matter). Its kind of strange with all my humouristic banter and all my randomness she was the only one who saw past that and knew who I was underneath it all. Sorry Ender's I made this thread a bit moopy...>_>..
I've noticed you refer to me as "ender's" before and I wonder why. So I look at my name and I realize that if you haven't read the book "Ender's Shadow" or even "Ender's Game" then you may not understand that "Ender" is a character. Thus, my screen name doesn't represent "the end", it represents the character "Ender" (it was actually his nickname).

Oh and the thread turned moopy a while ago so no appologies necessary. Though, I hope you don't mind me suggesting you not to give up on relationships (of any kind, including friendships). I won't lie and say I know what you went through... ... ... *scratches head* so I'll leave it at that.

[Behemoko]

Hmm I was very much the same as you until I met mine....>_>..for a good while she was my entire world and nothing mattered. Very first time I could open up to a person and not be afraid of rejection or guilt trips. But the problem with me is that for all the people I meet they usually die or leave me, hence I avoid contact with many people due to it (and relationships for that matter). :| Its kind of strange with all my humouristic banter and all my randomness she was the only one who saw past that and knew who I was underneath it all. Sorry Ender's I made this thread a bit moopy...>_>..

Thats my problem, I think I could find a reletive if I tried (her mom of all people..) But to this day, I am still VERY shy, and it's not just rejection, like it would be for this case more specifically, but I tend to be shy in every way, (which sucks for those who wouldn't have guessed. lol) For example, I am currently looking for a job that has nothing to do with interaction with other people, but you probably know how hard that is, I dont even like to be mean, which ended my fun little romp in the "bouncer for nightclub" section of the ads, even though it was tempting, how many nightclubs would hire a bouncer still recovering (therapy) from hand surgery anyway, lol!.. I am currently thinking about being a secret shopper, which only involves buying things, interaction - yes, but minimal, I cant even seem to find a normal job that suits me.. My mom, knowing about my shyness suggested being a hotel room cleaner (correct title?) because I would just be cleaning rooms when there were no people in them, but.. I don't really want that job.. So Enders, have I gone off topic enough for you, lol.. :lol:

[Goodfella]

^^^Hit up Myspace and who knows you just might find her. Everyone has a myspace even the Loco Roco.


And I say ban the thread starter for bringing up bad memories for people :lol:

[EndersShadow]

Thats my problem, I think I could find a reletive if I tried (her mom of all people..) But to this day, I am still VERY shy, and it's not just rejection, like it would be for this case more specifically, but I tend to be shy in every way, (which sucks for those who wouldn't have guessed. lol) For example, I am currently looking for a job that has nothing to do with interaction with other people, but you probably know how hard that is, I dont even like to be mean, which ended my fun little romp in the "bouncer for nightclub" section of the ads, even though it was tempting, how many nightclubs would hire a bouncer still recovering (therapy) from hand surgery anyway, lol!.. I am currently thinking about being a secret shopper, which only involves buying things, interaction - yes, but minimal, I cant even seem to find a normal job that suits me.. My mom, knowing about my shyness suggested being a hotel room cleaner (correct title?) because I would just be cleaning rooms when there were no people in them, but.. I don't really want that job.. So Enders, have I gone off topic enough for you, lol.. :lol:

Lol, if I knew how I'd change the title to "What's your ideal partner ... ... or something" but I don't enjoy reading instructions/directions/rules so I never figured out how to do it.

Anyway, I don't think you should run away from your problems (especially in this case, shyness). People are defined as socially hungry. If you have trouble communicating then it will become a great problem in your life. Face your fears and practice (and if necessary take medication like paxil - which helps calm you down so you don't become as anxious). Things may or may not go well when you initially start talking to people but you've got to start somewhere to get somewhere else.

[EndersShadow]

^^^Hit up Myspace and who knows you just might find her. Everyone has a myspace even the Loco Roco.


And I say ban the thread starter for bringing up bad memories for people :lol:

:lol: Hey, you guys are the ones that ruined my thread.

[Goodfella]

Yeah what he said and also I'll give you a great quote that I heard somewhere when it comes to talking to girls for you to keep in mind. <br />
<br />
&quot;You can't hit the board, if you don't throw the dart.&quot; <br />
...

[Uncool]

Okay lets all remove the moopy helmets now. I'll ban myself and everyone in this thread now lol.

[EndersShadow]

Okay lets all remove the moopy helmets now. I'll ban myself and everyone in this thread now lol.

Lol. I think people were actually having more fun dwelling about their past. Go figure...

[Uncool]

Nostalgia often brings forth good and bad memories, we just happened to have both in this thread..>_>...lol alright lets somewhat try and stay on topic this time around...>_>...

[EndersShadow]

Yeah, I'm going to sleep. After treating this thread like instant messaging I'm done for the night. I'll drop by tomorrow and see what happened to it, if anything at all.

[Behemoko]

There are too many of you to quote, and I'm not going to have Uncool temp ban me for posting 5 quotes in a row, lol so.. here goes

Goodfella (post 1): tried myspace, hated it, and deleted my account.

EnderShadow (post 1): Ironically too shy to get help, it's almost a phobia to ask someone out to me, lol, and shyness tends to work out fine (so far, except the job issue, I've applied at social places, but don't get interviewed even though I am over-qualified..)

Goodfella (post 2): thanks, but even already knowing that I still never asked her out.. I am socially challenged, lol!

Uncool (post 1): But I like my moopy helmet.. :(

started writing this before Uncools last statement, I will stay more on track if possible

It is very hard to define my ideal girl, I guess I would have to say that girl I talked about earlier, maybe a bit better looking, but I'd still take her personality over the perfect look anyday.. Okay, I'll be done for now also.

[I write Cursive]

I guess I'm lucky? My dad's tried raising my siblings and me up into the typical chinese one. However, my two older siblings are very rebellious which stressed my dadio to the breaking limit... and so he broke. Now he's very mellow and chill with nothing but best wishes in any endevour we encounter.

Oh, it's more like... If i get married whoever I marry will still have to do the little tea ceremony. Not just traditional it's just kind of crazy and my brother's support it. Whomever I marry MUST make money (but i must too) and hopefully be good looking. Their education must be approved of. My brother says I can't marry someone who is poor even if i loved him. If I did, they would be shunned. For example, my cousin married a girl whom my uncle and aunt dont approve of and look down on because she was an international affairs major while my cousin is an internal doctor. Even at his own sister's wedding they didn't announce them as husband and wife but as two seperate people. it's pretty harsh. My family and relatives pretty much think I should get married within the next 4-5 years. lol. But, my ideal person, I don't even know, I'm much more of a " if its meant to be, it'll happen"

[EndersShadow]

Can Uncool close this thread even if I (the thread starter) don't care if it goes off topic? :lol: It seems like a difficult game for people to play so I don't really care what direction this goes in...

behemoko,
Do whatever suits you then. Evidently you don't find your social anxiety that big of a problem otherwise you'd do something about it.

I write Cursive,
I have friends (including my girlfriend) that are in a similar position as you (where the family's opinion is almost overruling). When I hear those kinds of stories I just cringe and am thankful of having parents that support my decisions regardless of what they are. I know it's not so easy as saying, "Fine, then shun me if you will," but man...

[RedOrb_Collector]

Actually, funny thing. I was just talking to... my high school teacher at a Sushi bar reunion. Yeah, not the average guy you'd talk to about love :lol:

He just recently got married, and he told me an interesting story... Which I'm too lazy to type out at the time.

Needless to say, he said that you don't "look" for that perfect woman/man. You find each other, and you will know it (hugging his current-wife back then was "physically" electrifying in the literal sense, my teacher said) when you meet that person.

Anywho... So, I guess I don't have a preference (that's a lie. I do :)). Whoever gives me this "electrifying" hug, I'll take :lol:!

Besides, Penguins aren't picky like that ;).

So you're saying keep hugging random women till one of them gives you the end of her taser? GOT IT! Thanks n00b president.

:DD

[Blu-Ray]

Someone who loves Video Games and Sports as much as I do, who's always clean, and isn't afraid to speak her mind. That's all I want. :)

[The_One]

So you're saying keep hugging random women till one of them gives you the end of her taser? GOT IT! Thanks n00b president.

:DD LOL, that's EXACTLY what my teach said NOT to do :lol:.

Lmaooozzzzz.

I hope I don't turn into the next Bush :lol:.

[MikeAaronB]

http://news.ninemsn.com.au/img/entertainment/1502_beyonce_sp.jpg

Oh yeah! Need I say more?

[RedOrb_Collector]

Come now lad...surely you could find someone with more meat on their bones.

[Uncool]

Fine I'll close it EndersShadow since it got wierd in a sense.