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    I just broken up with my girlfriend.... =\

    Well i might as well make the leap of faith and post a thread about this.

    I just broke up with my girlfriend and need some words of the wise.

    She said everything i wanted to hear, she wanted to marry me, and she drove me, so deep into all this and she just might as well rip my heart from my chest and chainsaw it into little peaces while its still attached and put it inside my chest.

    how can some one do such a thing to me, i said i we can be friends but then i said i hated her for a moment and she just... ****ed me off big time.

    after all this she wanted space, os she winding me up or somthing, she said she wanted to marry me and that hit home hard, i know am only 19, and she meant alot to me, because she said that, and i just dont know what to do with my self.

    am i being an idiot or am i a victim of a super *****?

    I need help before i do somthing stupid!!!

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    well you are 19 its always we can be friends then you think about it and say F you lol. classic tragedy don't worry about it the right girl will come along and take over where she fail to stay. I know it hurts but it hurts now in the future it will feel good knowing someone is there for you
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    Don't do anything stupid......that's my job!

    If you are feeling that low, please consider the following options to get you through:

    talk to a close friend or relative: Just getting things off your chest verbally can make a world of difference.

    Socialise more with your existing friends, if you're that low it's better to not try and ride it out alone.

    And checkout the link I found that I'll be PMing you.

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    Well i wanted answers as to why she said all that **** to me that ended up to be just words to her, its really driven me to the edge, not that i want to do anything THAT epicly supid as to ending my life, shes not worth that much. but i just cant belive she has the ability to just tear me to the smallest peices ever.

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    May I ask why you two broke up? Or are you unsure about why?
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    We broke up because she said she needed space, she didnt want the pressure of me being around, wich is what i dont understand, why would she say such things to me, then say she wants space, i understand if she didnt want to talk to me, and we give it a breather but she broke up with me and not just have a breather and hang out with friends (wich i would have gladly let her do)

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    Quote Originally Posted by Playstation4life View Post
    We broke up because she said she needed space, she didnt want the pressure of me being around, wich is what i dont understand, why would she say such things to me, then say she wants space, i understand if she didnt want to talk to me, and we give it a breather but she broke up with me and not just have a breather and hang out with friends (wich i would have gladly let her do)
    I can tell you my opinion of what the actually translates to, but I prefer to stay with the positive which is you are free! You're 19, it's too early to be thinking of marriage anyways.

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    I know its early for marrage but she made me belive that this would be a long term relationship.

    You can tell me the negative as well, id rather know the other side of the fence so i can understand better or get more of other peoples points of view.

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    Ahh, okay. Well its really hard to say why she did that as I have zero knowledge about you two or your relationship.

    But if it was going well and everything seemed okay then she might have been feeling the pressure of marriage. Your both still young and she might not be ready for that step yet, even though she said she wanted to. Things can change and for women they can change instantly. Why she broke it off completely is beyond me, true getting some space would be wise when pressure like that builds up and maybe she felt that just putting some space between you two wouldn't be enough. Hard telling though.

    If I where you I would just give it a couple days, then go back to here and ask her if you both can talk. Just sit alone and talk about the situation, maybe you'll find a way around her problem and get back together down the road.
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    Quote Originally Posted by MrFenwick View Post
    Ahh, okay. Well its really hard to say why she did that as I have zero knowledge about you two or your relationship.

    But if it was going well and everything seemed okay then she might have been feeling the pressure of marriage. Your both still young and she might not be ready for that step yet, even though she said she wanted to. Things can change and for women they can change instantly. Why she broke it off completely is beyond me, true getting some space would be wise when pressure like that builds up and maybe she felt that just putting some space between you two wouldn't be enough. Hard telling though.

    If I where you I would just give it a couple days, then go back to here and ask her if you both can talk. Just sit alone and talk about the situation, maybe you'll find a way around her problem and get back together down the road.
    Too late for that mate i went in guns blazing why she asked me for marrage and that really made her delete me and visa versa, i havent blocked her so she may come back in a few days but thats pretty good analysis fenny. thanks BJ for the link but theres not much info on there, it dosnt seem to be an active place for info. Apart from teenage pregency.

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    Well just give it time, she may think about it and come around. Its hard to read women really and men do the best they can at times. Just give her some space for now and hopefully it'll turn out good for you both.
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    I might not be Dr. Phil, but call her and apologize to her. Just tell her to take as much space as she needs to clear her ideas and reorganize her thoughts. Though I think you are too young to marry at 19, just go for it if you must. If you both have love, then love has no age.

    In the unlucky case it doesn't work and you split, then i feel forced to say that you will be screwed and drowned into a 2 month depression. One day you will find someone who will give you a hand and will help you scar the love wounds that your last love relationship left you. In a way, it is the way we mature, by tasting diferent flavors, so we can pick our favorite.
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    It sounds as though shes a little unsure. Saying she wants to marry you then saying she needs space could be that she shocked herself. Maybe she didn't realise you meant that much to her and now needs time to think things over properly and is the best thing you can give her right now, time. Let her know how you feel and let her come to own mind, trying to force things will only make them worse.

    shes not worth that much
    In one respect saying that shows that you will get over this, on the other hand it could be nothing more than your (and rightfully so) anger showing at what shes done to you. You could also benefit from investing some serious time into thinking about how much she meant to you and where you were hoping this relationship would go.

    Take BJP's and talk to people close to you, family/friends etc, having a shoulder to lean on is one of the best things you could have right now and it sounds as though you need it.

    Please note that I wasn't being harsh or judgemental to you or the girl in question was just giving an outsiders opinion based on my own experience.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Playstation4life View Post
    thanks BJ for the link but theres not much info on there, it dosnt seem to be an active place for info. Apart from teenage pregency.
    Bummer sorry dude! At least if you do get pregnant you have a reference point!

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    Quote Originally Posted by notanovice View Post
    It sounds as though shes a little unsure. Saying she wants to marry you then saying she needs space could be that she shocked herself. Maybe she didn't realise you meant that much to her and now needs time to think things over properly and is the best thing you can give her right now, time. Let her know how you feel and let her come to own mind, trying to force things will only make them worse.



    In one respect saying that shows that you will get over this, on the other hand it could be nothing more than your (and rightfully so) anger showing at what shes done to you. You could also benefit from investing some serious time into thinking about how much she meant to you and where you were hoping this relationship would go.

    Take BJP's and talk to people close to you, family/friends etc, having a shoulder to lean on is one of the best things you could have right now and it sounds as though you need it.

    Please note that I wasn't being harsh or judgemental to you or the girl in question was just giving an outsiders opinion based on my own experience.

    Chin up matey

    I know shes not unsure mate, shes cretan about this, see how it goes without any contact and she may come back. But tbh im more worthy of moving on then just sulking about sobbing my eyes out. See how i get along just now, and find the real girl of my dreams.

    But i dont understand we got on and she meant alot to me, we genuinly got along so much, she totally **** me up by saying her time of the month was later than usual. thank **** that was a false alarm or self i'd have ****ed it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Playstation4life View Post
    Well i wanted answers as to why she said all that **** to me that ended up to be just words to her, its really driven me to the edge, not that i want to do anything THAT epicly supid as to ending my life, shes not worth that much. but i just cant belive she has the ability to just tear me to the smallest peices ever.

    I'm beginning to think it is a woman thing.

    Earlier in the year a girl told me she loved me. That's the last thing I ever heard from her. Never contacted me again, never responded my messages/calls etc.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Calis View Post
    I'm beginning to think it is a woman thing.

    Earlier in the year a girl told me she loved me. That's the last thing I ever heard from her. Never contacted me again, never responded my messages/calls etc.
    . Women, sod em im moving on eventually, thank you to every even you Calis, we all will be there, it does hurt, but time heals people, thankfully it takes a bottle of JD and a few smokes for me to heal, lifes for living, im not going to give in. Im going to get it right eventually. To me now, shes just another notch on my belt, call me a ***** for saying that but i dont give a ****.

    I am who i am, if i attach to some one so easly thats me, if i get hurt i get hurt, i'll heal one way or another, its her loss, she meant alot more to me then what i said Fenny. But there is some one out there who i like and who i click with. If i did actually (and i would never have dont get me wrong) killed my self, id leave so many people than what i could imagine so much more in pain than what i would have experianced. I have a mission, to find the one. I WILL FIND HER!!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Playstation4life View Post
    I know shes not unsure mate, shes cretan about this, see how it goes without any contact and she may come back. But tbh im more worthy of moving on then just sulking about sobbing my eyes out. See how i get along just now, and find the real girl of my dreams.

    But i dont understand we got on and she meant alot to me, we genuinly got along so much, she totally **** me up by saying her time of the month was later than usual. thank **** that was a false alarm or self i'd have ****ed it.
    I've had far too many of those false alarms in my time lol. She wants more, but I've said no, atleast untill we get through a couple of problems were having which she understands.

    And yeah, you are worth more than just sulking around but it is gonna take some time to get over it fully, as for finding the girl of your dreams, I actually came across mine when I stopped looking.

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    Quote Originally Posted by notanovice View Post
    I've had far too many of those false alarms in my time lol. She wants more, but I've said no, atleast untill we get through a couple of problems were having which she understands.

    And yeah, you are worth more than just sulking around but it is gonna take some time to get over it fully, as for finding the girl of your dreams, I actually came across mine when I stopped looking.
    Im not over it 100% but hell i must admit its alot more easyer than my first break up. Its always going to be hard the first time. But she wasnt my first, just what she said to me, and that it snowed on the first day we met (in april) i thought it meant somthing (wich it didnt, but never mind it ****ing happens!)

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    Quote Originally Posted by Playstation4life View Post
    We broke up because she said she needed space, she didnt want the pressure of me being around, wich is what i dont understand, why would she say such things to me, then say she wants space, i understand if she didnt want to talk to me, and we give it a breather but she broke up with me and not just have a breather and hang out with friends (wich i would have gladly let her do)
    man i dont get girl talk at all.why cant they be like us men and tell a undertandable reason then somthing sappy.sorry man.



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    Quote Originally Posted by BJP409 View Post
    Don't do anything stupid......that's my job!

    talk to a close friend or relative: Just getting things off your chest verbally can make a world of difference.

    Socialise more with your existing friends, if you're that low it's better to not try and ride it out alone...
    He's right. Try not to do what your gut tells you.

    Talk to someone else, hang out with your friends, and for the love of everything, don't be a jerk to her. I was when we broke up and I think it truly severed the slim chance I had left. That and she had already found someone else to...*cough.*

    If you do call her, keep your emotions in check and you keep your mouth shut. Don't risk saying something deadly like I did.

    Quote Originally Posted by carlosb View Post
    I can tell you my opinion of what the actually translates to, but I prefer to stay with the positive which is you are free! You're 19, it's too early to be thinking of marriage anyways.
    I wholeheartedly disagree. I had every intention of marrying my girlfriend when we met. I was 17 and she was 16. We were perfect for each other but in the end, I took her for granted and we split up, which was about a month ago. We spent almost a year and a half together.
    (I'm 19 as well.)

    Quote Originally Posted by Playstation4life View Post

    I am who i am, if i attach to some one so easly thats me, if i get hurt i get hurt, i'll heal one way or another, its her loss, she meant alot more to me then what i said Fenny. But there is some one out there who i like and who i click with. If i did actually (and i would never have dont get me wrong) killed my self, id leave so many people than what i could imagine so much more in pain than what i would have experianced. I have a mission, to find the one. I WILL FIND HER!!!!...
    It really is the woman's loss in most cases. There are too few good guys out there now and you seem to be one of them.
    I've thought of ending my life in the past, but for the same reasons as you, I could never do it. I'd leave behind so much more pain than I had.

    Quote Originally Posted by Playstation4life View Post
    Im not over it 100% but hell i must admit its alot more easyer than my first break up. Its always going to be hard the first time. But she wasnt my first, just what she said to me, and that it snowed on the first day we met (in april) i thought it meant somthing (wich it didnt, but never mind it ****ing happens!)
    If you really loved her, you'll never be over her 100%. I wish I could say it but I won't lie.


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    If she really said all of that stuff- and then just blew you off that easily.. Then I wouldn't worry about it. You're truly the better individual here, and she isn't. She whispered sweet lies into you ears to endear and disarm you- but in the end she couldn't follow through on any of it.

    Sleep on it. Nothing that I or anyone have said can make the hurt go away- But you can atleast know that you will have more chances.


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    I only read the OP and didn't bother reading the other post by PS4L or anyone else. Sorry....

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    Seems like it sucks now but you will be fine. Just don't do anything stupid.

    Yea, it hurts... I know I'm not one to talk on coping with break ups because if I lost who I'm with now... well she has the power to destroy me. However, speaking from someone who has taken a breakup hard I can say you'll be fine.

    However you choose to cope with it (remember, don't be stupid) you'll be okay. Someone else may come along and save you from that.

    I say that so confidently because it happened to me :/

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