The problem with love.

[Lefein]

Recommended listening: Disintegration - The Cure


There's always that one.. Not the one that you're meant to be with, but the one you were never meant to meet in the first place. It's not their fault, and it's not yours.. But still, their existence shatters every romantic notion you had that love was such a naive and simple notion that boy meets girl, girl meets boy, and their destiny is meant to be written in the stars til the end of days. They made you a liar. You promise forever and they will leave you with memories instead. Perhaps there is always a cost for building your castles in the sky, but still you felt like perhaps it was worth the cost? It is, after all, completely true what they say.. "It's better to love and lost then to never have loved at all."

What they never tell you is how it can all leave your head reeling and your senses numb. The world is full of beautiful people but also tortured souls. You never know what it is like to live life full sail until you have been cut out to sea, at least that's what I have walked away with from all of it. Eventually the sun rises in the east and the warmth returns to the world. Things move forward and you are left knowing that the saddest stories don't even need a villain and there is pain without evil, but no triumph without pain.

Still it can be easy to pass the day trying to answer more questions then there answers to. The night can descend upon you on days like this in the blink of an eye. The nights will haunt you with memories afloat in the tarry nothingness that is loneliness, yet even still, the truth gives way to comfort and you are reminded that the same stars shine down on all your brothers and sisters much more deserving of your time and care. So, I stare into the twilight knowing that the warmth and the wonder of the world are not gone. Knowing that each of us are blessed with friends, family, and lovers who will watch over us until the dirt reclaims the flesh it gave birth to.

The problem with love is, the only way to know if you will ever be able to keep your promises is to make them in the first place. Love, in most cases, is a contract for misery with a sub-clause for absolute divinity. It makes one think, though.. If gravity is one of the weakest forces in the universe and can make stars collide in the heavens, then what can true love do?

[Sektor]

That was amazing.

You did not write it?


Anyway, so true in many ways

[TommyFewty]

Thats beautiul. And true. Ive only fell in love once and still am when i think about her. I will never forget her, shes my best friend, i wanted it to be more but....thats the way the cookie crumbles i guess.

[Solid_Squirrel]

You're a regular Captain America at these things Lef

[UberNerD20]

Well what you wrote was nice...but my wife left me after we had kids cus she said it wasnt fun anymore, now i got my kids 7 days a week, and have a blast...though i have not found anyone else and have no intentions to, i have become a quite biter person, and see absolutly no reason for relatonships. They are destened to fail. its this generation everyone has lost the values to make any relationship succed. People are far to lazy and stuborn. No one wants to change for the other person which is neat because we expect the other person to change fo us. And there in is the problem.

[SessDMC]

Very well Written Lefin +Rep for you!

If your down in the dumps just now i have a recommendation

[ame="http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=goQD1GAP3Mw"]YouTube - Feeder - Heads Held High[/ame]

'Feeder - Head's Held High'

Always reminds me that some one is out there.... just waiting for me


Lucky for my self i think i have found her =]

[Lefein]

Thank you for your kind words. I am feeling a lot better these days. It just dawned on me that maybe if I put this out there then maybe it would help someone else.

[UberNerD20]

meh i gots teh booze

[Dom102]

7/10

[Gilly3]

i know now that i have never met that person. because if i had i would have thought of them whilst reading your post.

[TommyFewty]

That how i knew id met them gilly lol. I was reading it and she popped into my head

[Gilly3]

That how i knew id met them gilly lol. I was reading it and she popped into my head

i was reading it thinking about several different people. and i thought do i still love them. the answer was not a clear cut yes.

[Lefein]

i was reading it thinking about several different people. and i thought do i still love them. the answer was not a clear cut yes.

You know, that's honestly one of the biggest questions on my mind more recently. Can you LOVE someone and then just simply stop loving them, or will a part of you always love that person because they were such an important part of your life?

It's a silly question, but it's hard to answer when you stop and think about it. The only thing I really am certain of is that it gets better with time and that I don't wish ill upon her.

[Gilly3]

You know, that's honestly one of the biggest questions on my mind more recently. Can you LOVE someone and then just simply stop loving them, or will a part of you always love that person because they were such an important part of your life?

It's a silly question, but it's hard to answer when you stop and think about it. The only thing I really am certain of is that it gets better with time and that I don't wish ill upon her.

i can honestly say that i still have feelings for a few of my ex's but i dont think i love them.

its good that you dont wish bad things. all on the way to moving on in life.

[TommyFewty]

I dont think you can ever stop loving someone. The person i loved, and still do, is my best friend and all i wanna do is look after her and care for her. She turned me down when i wanted something more (go on have teh lulz) but i never stopoed thinking about her. She now has a kid and the dads a waster so i offered to support her and be there forever, and im only bloody 16 lol. Its impossible to just stop loving someone, no matter what they do or say to you.

[SessDMC]

I dont think you can ever stop loving someone. The person i loved, and still do, is my best friend and all i wanna do is look after her and care for her. She turned me down when i wanted something more (go on have teh lulz) but i never stopoed thinking about her. She now has a kid and the dads a waster so i offered to support her and be there forever, and im only bloody 16 lol. Its impossible to just stop loving someone, no matter what they do or say to you.

some one had to.....

Lefin my friend, love is a cruel mistress....

Like my old man says "You have to pick up the ball and keep running' Generally meaning, you may get knocked down, but you just gotta keep going on with life. It comes with the territory, and its not nice, but get your self a beer, and get your friends over... Forget your woes and just enjoy your self. Its the best cure.

[Lefein]

Forget your woes and just enjoy your self. Its the best cure.

Yeah, like I said, I just hope someone else gets some comfort. I've had a year to dust myself off so to speak. The weird thing is that I don't feel like jumping into a relationship again. The whole concept just burns me out. At this point I'm honestly contemplating signing up for the manned mission to Mars. I guess that's what happens when the hamster on the wheel in your brain has a heart attack.

[SessDMC]

Yeah, like I said, I just hope someone else gets some comfort. I've had a year to dust myself off so to speak. The weird thing is that I don't feel like jumping into a relationship again. The whole concept just burns me out. At this point I'm honestly contemplating signing up for the manned mission to Mars. I guess that's what happens when the hamster on the wheel in your brain has a heart attack.

You dont go out looking for a relationship, the relationship comes to you....

You'll know when you see it.

[Lefein]

For the record, "Friend Zone" can very often mean 'future relationship material'. I've seen it happen more than once. It's not nice to shoot the poor kid down :P

But yeah, as far as I'm concerned.. I did kinda get lucky in one facet. Since my new roommates are married I do have a wife that cooks and cleans by proxy lol! Hooray silver lining!

[SessDMC]

For the record, "Friend Zone" can very often mean 'future relationship material'. I've seen it happen more than once. It's not nice to shoot the poor kid down :P

But yeah, as far as I'm concerned.. I did kinda get lucky in one facet. Since my new roommates are married I do have a wife that cooks and cleans by proxy lol! Hooray silver lining!

Proxy wifes FTW!

Im glad to see your happy.... My last post sounds rather similar

"In Soviet Russia, car drives you!"

[Dom102]

For the record, "Friend Zone" can very often mean 'future relationship material'. I've seen it happen more than once. It's not nice to shoot the poor kid down :P

But yeah, as far as I'm concerned.. I did kinda get lucky in one facet. Since my new roommates are married I do have a wife that cooks and cleans by proxy lol! Hooray silver lining!

rofl.

whatever helps you sleep at night

[TommyFewty]

Dude the friend zones sweet

[karbineftw]

What on earth is the friend zone?

[SessDMC]

What on earth is the friend zone?

Direct from the Urban Dictionary.

1. The Friend Zone

This is the worst position someone can be in, if they have feelings for someone. When a person develops romantic feelings for someone, but the other person only sees the relationship as just being friends. Because the two are around each other a lot, the one in love will harbor his/her feelings for the others. Only to become completely comsumed by this person. This leads to the one in love to complain to all his/her friends about the situation, and to become "***** whipped" by they other.
Tom meets Amy, and falls in love. But Amy does not hold the same feelings. Therefore the two become friends, and thats it. Now Tom, being around Amy and just friends, harbors his romantic feelings for her. He then will become "***** whipped" by her, and complain to all his friends about his feelings for her. At this point Tom should realize he is in the Friend Zone and move on.

[Baki]

Well what you wrote was nice...but my wife left me after we had kids cus she said it wasnt fun anymore, now i got my kids 7 days a week, and have a blast...though i have not found anyone else and have no intentions to, i have become a quite biter person, and see absolutly no reason for relatonships. They are destened to fail. its this generation everyone has lost the values to make any relationship succed. People are far to lazy and stuborn. No one wants to change for the other person which is neat because we expect the other person to change fo us. And there in is the problem.

Best. Dad. Ever!