Birds and the Bees -Official Relationship Thread-

[Dave-The-Rave]

This is so true. You can never be certain with these types of girls.

@Dave

Just continue hanging out with her and try not to look too deep into it yet. I'd say she at least finds you attractive enough to kiss. Whether or not to date is a whole different story. Tomorrow night doesn't have to be the big determiner either. Just go have fun. I assume you haven't seen her since break? Maybe your feelings will change once you see her in person.

Really there isn't much to say. You seem to be taking a shine to her, but it seems more out of convenience than anything else. You said yourself in the quote you work better as a couple and that you're tired of being single. I think you like the idea of her more than the person herself. I could be wrong, hard to analyze everything through 2 posts and not trying to sound harsh.

I guess my question is, what are you looking for? Does she really fit it? If not you're only hurting yourself if she isn't interested. Long story short, if you're just looking for some fun, I bet you could win her over. If you want something more serious, this situation doesn't really sound like it.

What you say was probably right at first which is why I found it relatively easy to just be friends..it was finding out how much we have in common that made me start to really like her.

..but yeah, think Im just gonna play this by year. If it happens it happens, if it doesn't we'll still be good friends. Probably hurting my chaces that I'm admitting defeat before I even try.

EDIT: and what you other guys say about just having fun is probably true for most guys my age..but Im one of the rare guys that likes the serious stuff more. Though I wouldn't have an issue with having fun at first and that maybe developing. (Really just means I don't like one night stands).

[Molo316]

What you say was probably right at first which is why I found it relatively easy to just be friends..it was finding out how much we have in common that made me start to really like her.

..but yeah, think Im just gonna play this by year. If it happens it happens, if it doesn't we'll still be good friends. Probably hurting my chaces that I'm admitting defeat before I even try.

EDIT: and what you other guys say about just having fun is probably true for most guys my age..but Im one of the rare guys that likes the serious stuff more. Though I wouldn't have an issue with having fun at first and that maybe developing. (Really just means I don't like one night stands).

I totally understand this, as I am the same. I've been told that I'm a romantic. However, a lot of young people are not like this at all, so therefore it would be a one-way thing and would never work. It's annoying and disappointing, but it's the way it is.

[Sir_Scud]

What you say was probably right at first which is why I found it relatively easy to just be friends..it was finding out how much we have in common that made me start to really like her.

..but yeah, think Im just gonna play this by year. If it happens it happens, if it doesn't we'll still be good friends. Probably hurting my chaces that I'm admitting defeat before I even try.

EDIT: and what you other guys say about just having fun is probably true for most guys my age..but Im one of the rare guys that likes the serious stuff more. Though I wouldn't have an issue with having fun at first and that maybe developing. (Really just means I don't like one night stands).

That's cool man, do what you gotta do. Hope it goes well for you.

I totally understand this, as I am the same. I've been told that I'm a romantic. However, a lot of young people are not like this at all, so therefore it would be a one-way thing and would never work. It's annoying and disappointing, but it's the way it is.

Yeah man, most people at that age range will be like that. Just stay true to yourself, and hopefully one day you'll find someone like minded. It could be awhile but trust me when I say it's fucking worth it in the end.

[Beast of Bourbon]

It sure is... but don't be surprised if you're still single when you're fourty.
Not trying to diss you but good girls are hard to find these days

[Molo316]

That's cool man, do what you gotta do. Hope it goes well for you.



Yeah man, most people at that age range will be like that. Just stay true to yourself, and hopefully one day you'll find someone like minded. It could be awhile but trust me when I say it's fucking worth it in the end.

I'd like to think so, but the only place I could think of getting a girl like that is one in a convent or something. I can never imagine a young lady in this day and age thinking like that, and even then if they claimed they were I would think that they'd still take a "hot" and "bad" boy if the opportunity presented itself.

It sure is... but don't be surprised if you're still single when you're fourty.
Not trying to diss you but good girls are hard to find these days

Yep...

[Dave-The-Rave]

So yeah got very drunk last night..think I might have kissed her again, little bit foggy. Then I got kicked out of the club for being too drunk. lol, a little bit anti-climactic...

I just feel the usual embarassment today.

[Beast of Bourbon]

Sounds like a perfect night

[Sir_Scud]

I'd like to think so, but the only place I could think of getting a girl like that is one in a convent or something. I can never imagine a young lady in this day and age thinking like that, and even then if they claimed they were I would think that they'd still take a "hot" and "bad" boy if the opportunity presented itself.

Well, you're right about that. A good chance they would. I've seen a few girls I know, and yes only a few out of the majority I know, take a 180 and actually seek out a nice guy. It seems rare.

So yeah got very drunk last night..think I might have kissed her again, little bit foggy. Then I got kicked out of the club for being too drunk. lol, a little bit anti-climactic...

I just feel the usual embarassment today.

I agree with Beast, sounds like you had a good time.

[Dave-The-Rave]

Yeah, well my body hasn't been thanking me today.

[Dave-The-Rave]

Awesome, I killed the thread.

Anyway so...some point this week or next the girl is coming round to my place to watch a movie. (she shares the same oppinion as me that the worse a film is, the funnier it is..therefore it is awesome ). We are gonna watch Troll "OH MY GOOOOOOOOOOD" 2..which neither of us has seen.

Anyway, this obviously isn't the best type of movie to try anything and its all sort of innocent like a sort of a "friend date". Im thinking of ramping up the flirting a bit in our conversations. Has anyone got any advice? I know it would probably be better if we were watching a romcom or something..but shes not really that type of girl. (One of the things I like about her).

[PeanutButterMunky]

Not advice, but RomCom is the most annoying term ever conceived...

[Beast of Bourbon]

The way i see it you're doing pretty good if she wants to come over to your place.
Just tease her once in a while and see where that leads.
It's hard to give good advice just for watching a movie so just be yourself - there's not much "game" involved imo.

It would be cheesy if you invited her to a "romcom" if she's not into that crap,
if everything goes well the movie won't matter anyway

[yourmumsface17]

Awesome, I killed the thread.

Anyway so...some point this week or next the girl is coming round to my place to watch a movie. (she shares the same oppinion as me that the worse a film is, the funnier it is..therefore it is awesome ). We are gonna watch Troll "OH MY GOOOOOOOOOOD" 2..which neither of us has seen.

Anyway, this obviously isn't the best type of movie to try anything and its all sort of innocent like a sort of a "friend date". Im thinking of ramping up the flirting a bit in our conversations. Has anyone got any advice? I know it would probably be better if we were watching a romcom or something..but shes not really that type of girl. (One of the things I like about her).

Pffft "watch a movie"

Hope you use protection young man

[spyrde]

Awesome, I killed the thread.

Anyway so...some point this week or next the girl is coming round to my place to watch a movie. (she shares the same oppinion as me that the worse a film is, the funnier it is..therefore it is awesome ). We are gonna watch Troll "OH MY GOOOOOOOOOOD" 2..which neither of us has seen.

Anyway, this obviously isn't the best type of movie to try anything and its all sort of innocent like a sort of a "friend date". Im thinking of ramping up the flirting a bit in our conversations. Has anyone got any advice? I know it would probably be better if we were watching a romcom or something..but shes not really that type of girl. (One of the things I like about her).

Just start teasing her and making some small physical contact. It'll slowly start to escalate if you're doing it right.

[Dave-The-Rave]

Well hopefully, we already tease each other quite a bit..but im shit at sealing the deal.

[Molo316]

Well hopefully, we already tease each other quite a bit..but im shit at sealing the deal.

Don't think like that! If the moment feels right, you'll know, and if it is right, take it!

[spyrde]

Well hopefully, we already tease each other quite a bit..but im shit at sealing the deal.

Just gotta take a plunge man, women like confidence. If you're hitting the buttons right and the conversation goes smoothly, then just start making subtle but sure moves, like moving closer to her and maintaining eye contact longer.

[Dave-The-Rave]

Yeah, just got to find time to watch the movie now..we've already had to put it off twice now because we both have massive deadlines coming up for assignments, so its a bit up in the air and its pissing me off. Can't wait for things to calm down again.

[Dave-The-Rave]

So I went round to a friend's house tonight for a few drinks..they were obviously trying to set me up with this girl who was just so boring and your typical blonde bimbo..they were going to head out to a club to continue drinking so I excused myself and used the excuse of having to get up tomorrow which is true, but I was glad I had that excuse.

The thing is, this just made me realise that I do actually REALLY like this girl I have been talking about here, we have loads in common and she actually has a brain and personality. I guess it just makes me even more scared of that rejection when I finally go for it, I feel it will happen..I want to take that chance, but I don't know how messed up it will make me if she rejects me. I'm not good with all that. I'm going to text her tomorrow..cause it has been a couple of days since we last chatted (I put that down to us both being busy though). I get the feeling though that I'll have my answer pretty soon, I imagine I'll probably reach boiling point and just do something stupid.

[Molo316]

So when exactly are you going to do this movie night thing? Sorry if the answer is above but I'm quite tired from work and my eyes are hurting to read too much text, although I may type it right now.

In need of wisdom once again:
How can you generally tell if a girl is interested in you?
I've read the stuff like if she laughs at every joke you make and keeps looking at you, and blah blah blah. These potential answers are unique to the situation where you're in constant close proximity to the chick. However, with me, I'm curious about a girl who works in another department to me at work, and even on another floor of the department store.

Basically I kept seeing this girl around who I thought was quite attractive. As time went on she saw me and we started exchanging smiles. It then turned to "Hi" and "Hello", and then to "How are you?"
I saw her again today and we were in the lift together, so I basically said, "This is stupid you and I just asking if we're alright... what's your name?" She laughed and told me her name, and straight away she then asked me what mine is. Usually, I have to introduce myself and then ask what their names is. It's a small and minor thing, but to be honest we've never had a proper conversation about getting to know one another, but we started exchanging smiles and now we're on name terms.

What I've described is basically how it is, so from that would anyone justly say that maybe she has a crush on me, or am I getting too excited?
My mate told me that I should try and have a conversation with her and see if we get on before I perhaps try asking her if she wants to do something together, which I totally agree with; the only chance I get of that is if I walk by her department and start a conversation if she's not busy, which will be difficult, because if I walk the natural route through her floor, her department is a little far, so it's not "on my way"...

Thanks.

[Sir_Scud]

Molo, I wouldn't go too far and say she has a crush on you yet, she could just be friendly. I agree with your friend though. You really need a proper conversation with her before you can really assess this situation.

So what if its not your natural route, she doesn't know that nor should she expect that it isn't. Just go do it man. If she's into you she won't mind you coming up to her and starting a conversation. All that stuff about "its not on my way" is just overthinking.

I really hope for the best, but you go for it one of these days.

[Dave-The-Rave]

Yeah Id say, start out friendly, and then start to sneak in the flirting little by little.

As for me, we still haven't got the time to watch the film..will probably be next week now after my deadlines. We've been texting more though, so who knows..just gonna let it play its course I guess.

[Molo316]

Molo, I wouldn't go too far and say she has a crush on you yet, she could just be friendly. I agree with your friend though. You really need a proper conversation with her before you can really assess this situation.

So what if its not your natural route, she doesn't know that nor should she expect that it isn't. Just go do it man. If she's into you she won't mind you coming up to her and starting a conversation. All that stuff about "its not on my way" is just overthinking.

I really hope for the best, but you go for it one of these days.

Yeah Id say, start out friendly, and then start to sneak in the flirting little by little.

As for me, we still haven't got the time to watch the film..will probably be next week now after my deadlines. We've been texting more though, so who knows..just gonna let it play its course I guess.

Yeah, sounds reasonable. Cheers lads.

Well she knows what department I work in. I assume that she's just seen me there, or she recognizes the people I hang with, because she asked me today if I work in said department, and I've never told her previously. Maybe did some research? So with that being said, now that she knows, going out of my way may seem a bit bait, however, if she is keen on me then like you say, Scud, she shouldn't mind - a gamble I should take.

I spoke to one of my female friends about this today and she recommends I try and have a conversation with her and try and get the Facebook and then go from there, but she thinks I should definitely lead up to asking her out and finding out is she does like me. I assume she'll be on Facebook. I'm 22, and she told me today she's still in college so I assume she's probably 17. That's alright for me, and she is legal - that is the main point!
Anyway, won't see her again until next Saturday now so I'll wait 'til then.

Dave: Cool. If she is texting you first as well then that is a good sign. At least it shows she's thinking about you, whatever capacity it is.
Pay her some attention, but focus on your work, as if it's only next week she's not going to go away. After next week the world is your oyster with her.

[SchaffinOSX]

So when exactly are you going to do this movie night thing? Sorry if the answer is above but I'm quite tired from work and my eyes are hurting to read too much text, although I may type it right now.

In need of wisdom once again:
How can you generally tell if a girl is interested in you?
I've read the stuff like if she laughs at every joke you make and keeps looking at you, and blah blah blah. These potential answers are unique to the situation where you're in constant close proximity to the chick. However, with me, I'm curious about a girl who works in another department to me at work, and even on another floor of the department store.

Basically I kept seeing this girl around who I thought was quite attractive. As time went on she saw me and we started exchanging smiles. It then turned to "Hi" and "Hello", and then to "How are you?"
I saw her again today and we were in the lift together, so I basically said, "This is stupid you and I just asking if we're alright... what's your name?" She laughed and told me her name, and straight away she then asked me what mine is. Usually, I have to introduce myself and then ask what their names is. It's a small and minor thing, but to be honest we've never had a proper conversation about getting to know one another, but we started exchanging smiles and now we're on name terms.

What I've described is basically how it is, so from that would anyone justly say that maybe she has a crush on me, or am I getting too excited?
My mate told me that I should try and have a conversation with her and see if we get on before I perhaps try asking her if she wants to do something together, which I totally agree with; the only chance I get of that is if I walk by her department and start a conversation if she's not busy, which will be difficult, because if I walk the natural route through her floor, her department is a little far, so it's not "on my way"...

Thanks.

You're exactly right when you say these things all come down to the particular situation. While there are said to be a few universal signs of a girl being interested, it all comes down to the specific girl, and how she chooses to deal with certain situations. After having chased a variety of girls (and failing), I can say that a lot of girls will lead you on to thinking something because they're trying to be nice, and don't want to hurt you.

From your instance, I'd say you're getting too excited. Again, we don't know every nitty gritty detail, so I'm sure I could be swayed to think otherwise. More than likely, she's just being friendly; nothing you said is a sure sign of interest. It isn't, however, a sign of disinterest. At this point, I really don't think you know enough to make either argument. Keep doing what you're doing, and I think you'll get a better idea.

[Molo316]

You're exactly right when you say these things all come down to the particular situation. While there are said to be a few universal signs of a girl being interested, it all comes down to the specific girl, and how she chooses to deal with certain situations. After having chased a variety of girls (and failing), I can say that a lot of girls will lead you on to thinking something because they're trying to be nice, and don't want to hurt you.

From your instance, I'd say you're getting too excited. Again, we don't know every nitty gritty detail, so I'm sure I could be swayed to think otherwise. More than likely, she's just being friendly; nothing you said is a sure sign of interest. It isn't, however, a sign of disinterest. At this point, I really don't think you know enough to make either argument. Keep doing what you're doing, and I think you'll get a better idea.

Alright, that's fair enough. I totally agree that it's way too early to think that she likes me, so I'll hold my hands up to that.
In terms of doing what I'm doing, that's cool too, but I usually drag my feet so the first thing that came to mind was being trapped in the friend zone again.

But yeah, I'll leave this for now until next weekend, because I won't be seeing her again until then anyway.

Thanks.