Birds and the Bees -Official Relationship Thread-

[Dave-The-Rave]

You don't want to be a homewrecker, leave that situation alone and look elsewhere. You may "love" this woman, but it is definitely possible to love different people..so get out there and keep looking. I've pined over the women I can't have before and believe me it does no good.

[DeviousOne]

You don't love her you just got accustom to her company and all along she was just in it for the feeling of something new.

[Fon]

Haha. My friends said the same thing. I guess I just wanted more people to tell me the reality of this because I'm being a stubborn fool. Honestly I'm pretty thick skin when it comes to women, those who you would consider super models are nothing to me, you can say that I'm apathetic in regards to romantic love. Well, until now. Still can't believe I fell in love with her, it won't be easy to just forget about her but I'll try. I'll use these replies as my support. Thanks guys!.

[Dave-The-Rave]

I'm done, I'm so fucking done. So I had basically given up on finding someone, yet last Thursday at my housemate's birthday a friend of the girl my other housemate was seeing took an interest in me. She came round to my house this Tuesday and she expressed even more interest. Tonight she was out and we organized for me to meet up with her tonight. I got there tonight and she wasn't interested at all. She was constantly on her phone to her "friend" from back home via Twitter....I am so fucking fed up of this. The moment I let myself have feelings for a girl some shit like this happens. Also some awkward shit happened with my housemates tonight too. I'm going to have to deal with all of this when I wake up. I am so damn tired, why can't something work in my favour for once!?

Its not like I am an unattractive guy or anything..to think I actually really liked the idea of getting to know this girl!

[Sir_Scud]

Let it out, Dave. I swear I've had moments like this and I'm still pretty jaded about this topic. It alone evokes some pent up anger from my past. It seriously happens when you stop looking, focus on yourself and then someone worthy comes along.

From the sound of your description, she sounds like an immature girl more focused on herself than anything else. Usually the ones who go out at night and are glued to their phones instead of the group are people who aren't that interesting and should be avoided.

[HellsJester]

You are doing better than me dude so keep trying.

[Dave-The-Rave]

Let it out, Dave. I swear I've had moments like this and I'm still pretty jaded about this topic. It alone evokes some pent up anger from my past. It seriously happens when you stop looking, focus on yourself and then someone worthy comes along.

From the sound of your description, she sounds like an immature girl more focused on herself than anything else. Usually the ones who go out at night and are glued to their phones instead of the group are people who aren't that interesting and should be avoided.

The thing is I had stopped looking, this girl just randomly took interest without my trying which made me think she might be different....I'm so depressed right now.

[Sir_Scud]

Yeah dude, its rough. In college I had a horrible streak of girls where things just didn't go right. I could share some stories if it'd make you feel better. The reason I say it is because I know that stage you're in. You think that, "Ok, maybe this girl seems alright." And then she shits all over you. Sometimes it's surprising what swapping some stories can do and venting. Seriously though, I know you probably like her and all, but if she's more interested in some text on a phone than you, fuck her. Her loss.

Here's one awful experience:

A group of us went to a little club. One of the girls had shown some interest, so I decided to try and win her over at the club after we all loosened up a bit. She got real cold real fast on me. Didn't want to dance, didn't want to talk, just wanted to stick with the group. Later that night I see her getting real familiar with a random dude. Pissed me off. We hung out a few times, a little physical interaction, so I thought she liked me. Then I knew she was just stringing me along, just liked the idea of having me around. Anyways towards closing time the group had broken off and people were gone. As I was leaving I notice the girl, almost passed out on a chair. Completely alone. Looked like someone maybe spiked her drink even.

Sparing some embarrassing details for her, I drag her puking and pissing body back home and tell her roommate what happened. After that I barely spoke to her and showed no interest. But I surely showed her that night that I'm the type that doesn't leave people behind when the games are over.

[Dave-The-Rave]

Yeah, I'm that sort of guy too. I'm just really not looking forward to all the "apologies" in the morning because I know how fake they are going to be.

[Sir_Scud]

Oh yeah, I hate the fakeness. She was 'really sorry' about the night before and tried to thank me for helping her out. I basically was just like, "Ok".

[Dave-The-Rave]

Oh yeah, I hate the fakeness. She was 'really sorry' about the night before and tried to thank me for helping her out. I basically was just like, "Ok".

I've already decided to completely ignore everyone tomorrow. I won't even validate their excuses.

[Sylar]

thats the best thing man, you need time to chill out and sort things out, then when you're comfortable again it won't matter what anyone else thinks.

I feel I'm in the same boat in a way, I've given up looking for someone as it's been like 6 years since my last girlfriend, most of the girls that flirt with me already have boyfriends and the one's i'm into always end up being in a relationship already which annoys me so I can't be bothered anymore.

[Dave-The-Rave]

Today has been one of the most depressing days ever.

[PeanutButterMunky]

Today has been one of the most depressing days ever.

You'll get through it, man.

[Dave-The-Rave]

You'll get through it, man.

I always do.

[PeanutButterMunky]

I always do.

That's good to hear. :]


Hopefully the day'll go by quick. :/

[Dave-The-Rave]

You know I have a billion dollar idea. Soundproof shouting booths, for the times when you just need to get it out of your system.

[podsaurus]

You know I have a billion dollar idea. Soundproof shouting booths, for the times when you just need to get it out of your system.

I would love to have one! Read what happened Dave. I'm not looking right now but if a girl came along I might pursue it. It sucks to have someone come along with interest supposedly and then be ignored. I view it as weeding out the bad ones and eventually you find that one special flower in the yard.

[Dave-The-Rave]

I'm slowly calming down now, the girl wasn't the only problem I've been having lately..been having a lot of stress from work due soon as well as uncertainty about my future and it all sort of piled together to create a complete meltdown. I finish this term of uni at the end of the week and then I go home for about a month where I'll get to recuperate.

[Jaeger]

OK, so this is minor compared to others.

I've been doing online dating for the past month or so. I started talking to this girl who lives, like, five minutes away. We got talking, exchanged numbers, started texting and then ultimately arranged to meet-up for lunch. We did so and things went great. We sat down for a meal and just talked for hours on end. Everything felt so casual and relaxed, it was perfect. I walked her home and we did the usual kiss/hug goodnight. I get home, go to sleep and wake up the next morning to a text saying she'd like to go out again sometime. So far, Jaeger 1 - 0 Loneliness.

A week later, her and I go out again. This time we go further afield. We go see a film, a bite to eat, take a walk and talk and again, things are going great. By this point, we know a hell of a lot about each other. Its clear that we're both into each other. We head back to hers, have coffee and bid each other goodnight. I walk home, smiling that, for once, things are going well for me. I wake up the next morning to another text, saying she's into me, wants to go out again with me. Score so far, Jaeger 2 - 0 Loneliness.

But...that's where the problem lies. That text was two weeks ago. We've spoke pretty much everyday but we're actually yet to go out. I don't know what I should do. Do I take a chance and just flat out ask her out again and risk sounding needy or do I leave it down to her? I just can't help but feel that we've hit a wall and aren't going anywhere from this point on. What say you, PSU?

[Dave-The-Rave]

Just make plans, I always regret just making damn plans. If you don't it will just fizzle out. She likes you and you know she does so just go for it!

[Jaeger]

I just don't want to come across as needy or something, aha.

[Dave-The-Rave]

I just don't want to come across as needy or something, aha.

2 weeks isn't needy.

[Jaeger]

2 weeks isn't needy.

I don't know, it seems it to me, I guess it's a matter of opinion. Anyway, she's working all this week and next so it doesn't leave much of a window for a night out - what I might do is invite her round for some dinner and a DVD or perhaps just a casual lunch date during her break.

[Sir_Scud]

Jaeger, I feel like you're letting your mind get away from you on this. Clearly she likes you. After two weeks, she probably wants to see you. If she has an incredibly busy work schedule, the thought of even a casual date with someone interesting probably sounds like the best thing in the world. Needy would be insisting on a date every night of the week, imo. Make this shit 3-0.