Are men really like that?

[The Black Wolf]

I recently finished a book by Steve Harvey called "Act like a Lady, Think like a Man" and I hope to God what I read is not true.

So if I get man who thinks I'm a keeper, he'll give me affection just because he just wants sex? He won't give me affection because he loves me? Are men even capable of love?

After I finished the book, it really made me sad. It made me sad to think men are not capable of emotions and are just physical beings.

If this book is true, then I think I am better off being single for the rest of my life.

I'm not making this thread to offend anyone or the male members of this forum, but I just want to know. It would save me time and heartache.

[Lethal_NFS]

Hold everything!!!!!!! You are a girl?

[Inzane2050]

Those books are nonsense. As an amazing man myself, I must inject my opposition to those writings of blasphemy you speak of. Steve Harley is really a woman bent on discrediting men on a global front.

I really mean it tho; those books are nonsense, haha!

[The Black Wolf]

Hold everything!!!!!!! You are a girl?

Yes, yes I am. A very confused girl.

I bought the book because I thought it would tell why guys going around sleeping with anyone and everyone and don't call or reply or want a relationship with them. I always believe sex is something intimate and it just doesn't make sense for a guy to sleep someone and then treat them like a trophy, like they're out hunting vaginas.

The book told me why, and I hope that's not true.

[The Black Wolf]

Those books are nonsense. As an amazing man myself, I must inject my opposition to those writings of blasphemy you speak of.

Whew, thank God then it's not true. . . for you at least.

[Blacksite]

I don't mean to offend, but you sound like an awfully impressionable person.

Read better books. The world is not as black and white as you might think.

[Lethal_NFS]

Yes, yes I am. A very confused girl.

I bought the book because I thought it would tell why guys going around sleeping with anyone and everyone and don't call or reply or want a relationship with them. I always believe sex is something intimate and it just doesn't make sense for a guy to sleep someone and then treat them like a trophy, like they're out hunting vaginas.

The book told me why, and I hope that's not true.

Wow I had no idea lol. I bet I called you bro a few times lol.

Anyways, early on guys are only after one thing. After about the age of 25 things change. Men start to develop emotions and want to settle down.

[The Black Wolf]

All right, that's all I wanted to know. Thank you guys, I'll look for better books on men and relationships.

[btbam]

Hold everything!!!!!!! You are a girl?

Yes lol. She has made that fact evident several times. Won't hold it against ya though .

And to answer Black Wolf. Like most things, it has a nugget of truth. Men aren't expressive with emotion, love is no exception. Personally i am not very expressive at all. Most people consider me rather deadpan. Its not that i don't feel emotion, i just don't express emotion. Men can feel love, trust me. I think just about every man here has felt the scornful sting of losing that first girlfriend. But despite that, we still come back for more. That proves to me, that the idea of love is something valuable to men, and something we want, but might not express.

[The Black Wolf]

Thank you for reassuring me, I really appreciate it.

[Cyn]

Men have emotions, they are usually just buried deeper with various firewalls between them and other people, unlike most women. Something you must understand however is we are fundamentally wired differently. It's true that to some extent both sexes instincts are to pair off. But men also have a strong primal urge to spread their seed far and wide, and that is why so many cheat. The good people who don't cheat think about it, trust me, even if it's just wishful thinking in a day dream. Especially in long term relationships.

[DreDayDetox]

Really? I think the same thing about women on dating sites based on the fact that they have the power to click "skip". I seriously just don't understand their mind. They cry about having shitty boyfriends yet when one fuckin' guy who's perfect for them is right in front of them, they skip him. It's like they try to find some bad quality about him to make an excuse to skip on him. And I didn't need to read a book or watch a TV show to make that observation. The fucked up thing is that the same woman who rejected the nice guy who had the potential to make her happy would have actually hooked up with him if they met in real life first, and not from the Internet.

If men are incapable of love, then so are women, fair and square.

[radgamer420]

Men sleep around and women sleep around. There are faithful men and unfaithful men just as there are faithful women and unfaithful women. But the need to love and be loved is a human need. Its not restricted to a certain sex. Not to sound harsh but stop filling your head with garbage and find some better reading material.

[x6Teen]

you should be smart enough to know that when your read topics like such, it doesn't apply to everyone. it's like saying 'all girls are gold-diggers and there's no faithful one'. of course there are many many gold-diggers and females that aren't faithful but i know that there are lots of females that aren't.

i personally wouldn't mess around any female that's looking for a long-term relationship before i'm 25. so until then, i'll just stick to one night stands, more money for myself, having fun with friends without someone worried about what i'm doing, the list is endless.

[mooninites]

Men are like onions, they have layers. Yes this is a Shrek analogy... That's all i got . But seriously once we get a little mature we ease off thinking with our junk all the time. We Do it sometimes but i would say the majority of men are loyal and do wanna find their special lady and settle down.

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[adamdolge]

Yeah, it's definitely not black and white. I'm probably considered a s**t head by my ex, but I like to think I have a good heart and do my best to make others feel appreciated. That being said, the sexes have different hormones, so it is partially genetic that men are wired for more physical...things. I do agree that many women say that want the nice guy, but even as I'm turning into my 30s (sad face), I find older women are just like 20-somethings and want that guy that treats them like crap. It used to boggle my mind, that is until I realized I never go after the right women either. Men definitely have emotions and junk, we just don't wear them on our sleeves.

[MacP]

We're ticking time bombs if you know what I mean!?

[Vulgotha]

[Xelios]

As long as we have money, why does it matter?

Now I just need to work on that money aspect...

[RedOrb_Collector]

Under a certain age bracket, I would say 90% of us are like that.

But, for me at least, it feels more rewarding to have integrity and to care.

Good dudes exist, but make no mistake women as a whole don't exactly help make this road easy for men.

But that is exactly why its more rewarding, challenge is awesome.

[itachi73378]

Yes, most men (immature ones) act to love women just for sexual purposes. But I feel its mostly stupid teenagers. Being a teenager myself I know what guys talk about. My friends use to talk jokingly about how there no point in getting a girl except for 'you know what'. That is how they think. Ofcourse spend time with your significant other can change your view.

I really feel sorry for girls sometimes. My opinion can be totally invalid as I have never dated a girl. Why?
A) because dating is not allowed in Islam. If you want to have sex with someone, you have to marry him/her.
B) No girls date skinny nerds
C) I don't even have the guts to talk to a girl

[saleenf5]

Unless Steve Harvey has talked to every man in the world an learned how they all think the book is just a huge generalization an a waste of the paper it's printed on.


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[Bio]

EDIT: Nevermind. My post got way too confusing.

I'll just say this: yes, most men are corrupt in "those ways", but most women also have overwhelming issues specific to their gender. I look at it at basic terms: humans are fallible beings and the world tempts us further into slipping into corrupt behavior. That's why people with true good qualities are aplenty but more of an obscurity under any circumstance.

Gender-bashed books like Steve Harvey's just like to sensationalize this through stories, supposed trends, and whatnot. That's why I generally don't see them as constructive reading material.

[Beast of Bourbon]

I have a Stache your arguments are invalid

[Ixion]

My girlfriend wants to have sex more than I do. I've had the flu for days now and she just keeps texting me, telling me to get better so we can have sex lol.

I'm not complaining. I'm just sayin....